Reaching 45 – an anniversary

I have shied away from using the number 45 due to it’s negative connections right now – there is a Colt 45  gun- a topic to hot to talk about for me in my life of wanting non violence. There is 45 the nickname for a President that I can’t talk about right now and I am way past 45 years of age. There is, of coarse, a happy memory of 45 records for those of us who are old like me. (Are there some of you who don’t even know what a record is? I bet so! )

Or there is the angel numbers 45 that are telling me –

( I must confess here I know nothing about angel numbers but found it while googling 45 – who knew there was such a thing??!!)

when you run into the number 45 you have an angel checking in with you and they will tell you –

  • Now is a good time to rid your life of bad habits. It’s time to let go of your unhealthy fears, self-doubts, and unnecessary worries.
  • Many changes are taking place and when they all occur at the same time, it can get quite overwhelming and stressful.
  • Keep a clear and optimistic perspective on life and focus on the things that add to your self-improvement.

Good things to think about when you have been married for 45 years.

For me the month of September has been filled with thinking about the 45 years ago when my husband and I got married. It was 45 years ago that we finished college and started off on an adventure of creating a life together away from our families. A time of living in new places, finding new friends and struggling to find jobs, then professions and also due to being in our early 20’s trying to figure who we were both as individuals and as a new couple.

This time was scary, exciting, overwhelming and amazing all at once. So much going on. There was Watergate (Hmm – another issue with impeachment), there was Worldwide Inflation that helped to cause dramatic increases in the cost of fuel, food and manufacturing, and I could go on but this is not the point.

The point is in each of our lives so much happens. At times it feels like a very long time. 45 years is a lot of years. Yet, as I sit and think about it, it seems to have happen quickly. I wonder how we got here.

There were

  • years of teaching and working
  • years of raising two children and all that it entails
  • buying a house and them moving to another one
  • adding on to a house to give us a bit more room
  • years of watching our parents decline and leave this earth
  • years of developing dear friends all long the way
  • years of gardening, travels, and spending time with friends

More and more details pop up as I begin to list – the years show up as a quickly moving movie in my head.

IMG_6780.jpgThen there is the current year of September to September – there was a wedding for IMG_8077.jpgone, a baby and a battle with cancer for one, a whole set of kittens we did not expect, an open heart surgery for my brother and there was love!  The family and extended family gathering for last Thanksgiving, the moving of a niece back to the mid west helping to pull our extended family closer. There was the joy of planting seeds, watching a little one grow and so much more.

There is the private life of husband and wife – times talking over coffee and tea, the long walks and talks we have, the many trips to the north shore to stare at Lake IMG_8070.jpegSuperior when the sun rises, the time of quiet where we know we don’t need to say anything. There has also been plenty of worries, woes and issues but they seems to fade away for me.

As the 45 angel says (whoever that may be): There is so much going on right now that it is a good time to keep a clear and optimistic perspective on life and focus on the things that add to your self-improvement.

So as we finished one more celebratory dinner as  September comes to a close – sharing a too large piece of carrot cake (that neither of us should have had) and a glass of wine we marveled at the years. We think about how we began and how we are still seeking to understand who we are as individuals and as a couple. Knowing that we are super happy to have wandered these last 45 years together and look forward to as many more as we can claim. (Knowing that a bit less carrot cake and wine and a bit more yoga and walking may extend those year. Looking for self improvement as the angel 45 says.)

Love to all on a lovely cloudy rainy yet beautiful night for a life well lived full of people to care about and a world to protect and care for. Life is good!




About Joanne Toft

I am a retired Minneapolis Public School teacher. I walk, garden, care for my Grandson and write. Life is good!
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8 Responses to Reaching 45 – an anniversary

  1. margaretsmn says:

    What a beautiful, celebratory post. Congratulations on 45 years! My husband and I just celebrated 37 years. This is the sweetest time of all!

  2. Trina Haase says:

    Happy anniversary! 45 years is amazing! I love how much you have to celebrate here!

  3. Congratulations 🎊 what a tremendous milestone!

  4. arjeha says:

    Congratulations on 45. It is amazing how quickly the years seem to pass. Kathy and I will celebrate 39 On Friday.

  5. Ramona says:

    Congrats on 45 years! Wonderful reflection on your years together.

  6. Adrienne says:

    Happy anniversary. Your post today gives 45 a whole new (happier) connotation.

  7. cmargocs says:

    Thank you for sharing your anniversary Slice with us! Here’s to continued growth and happiness.

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